A douche blogging about how not to be a douche on douche-y Medium trying hard to be a rockstar. Ugh.
Thank you very much for your input Robin, much appreciated.
Unfortunately, people tend to get offended quite easily. Great article!
it's not about being offensive. the tone of the article is very 'pot calling the kettle black'
You are very welcome.
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Exactly what I thought. Not good.
Cue the sexist analogy: The sexiest girls I’ve ever met were the ones who didn’t act like it. There’s nothing more sexy than a cute AND modest girl.
God forbid a woman have confidence or, gasp, be proud of themselves. Keeping it real classy, Antonio.
I thought sexism would also help to bring up the tone of the article.
I'm sympathetic to your underlying argument about humility, but I closed the tab immediately after reading the misogynistic stuff. No place for that.
Stopped reading at:
Cue the sexist analogy
Maybe if you know you're about to say something sexist… don't?
There was a lovely medium article posted up ~ a month ago: focus on your own shit that hits the nail on the head.
Worrying so much about what other people are doing, if people are douchebags or not, and if they're wearing Google Glass is toxic and distracting from what really matters.
Totally agree. When I was 80% done with this, I thought hard about what good could come of a hate post, but in the end I've decided to share my thoughts regardless. Just another rant lost in the the black hole of the internet. I'm not one to praise complaining or ranting, but I guess I just wish there were more nice people in the world. Thanks for the link, good read.
Absolutist titles are probably the one thing that tells me the author is also a douchebag.
I do try my best. An alternate title was "This designer was a douchebag, you won't believe what happens next", but I don't think it would convert so well.
Probably doesn't convert as well, you're right.
falls under the category "She Presses A Plastic Bottle Against An Iron. Minutes Later… I Have To Do This With My Kids!"
Your logo is a monogram with the first letters of your first and last name
I'm confused as to how this is an example of douchbaggery? If you intend to brand yourself, using your own actual name, there are few options more appropriate than a monogram. And I'm not just saying that because I have one.
I think he is kind of describing 90% of the designers by saying that on purpose just to draw some attention.
There are definitely pretentious people in the design industry, but objectifying people based on their choice of apparel is pretty cringeworthy. Also, why are you drawing parallels between bragging about one's endowment and bragging about skill level? That's some trump level SMH right there.
I love @Pieratt's response to the quoted tweet when you view the entire Twitter conversation:
Unfortunately those are all very much true. I think we're born into an ignorant bliss of privilege, that we only understand once exposed to those who were not. I was told once that in the US if you're white and male then you're set for a job. Made me think that the world isn't how I used to perceive it growing up through the Benetton ads.
I was told once that in the US if you're white and male then you're set for a job.
You were lied to.
"Fuck you, be nicer"
yep, pretty much.
I wonder who triggered OP.
You know what's funny? Even I don't remember exactly what triggered it. But I've definitely bumped into a couple of people that are that way. Next post will be the opposite, about those great guys that are incredibly open and helpful to everyone, also met a few here.
Your having taken the time to write this, and our having received it — talk about there being a market for shit taste and vacuity.
In this day and age and with internet, tell me one thing that there isn't a market for.
Who are you even complaining about? lol. Does this stereotype even exist?
I am a very happy person and I am having trouble identifying the so called "douchebag designers" some people are slightly more arrogant then others but that's about it.
I like the message. Definitely needs a little bit of proofing though. I kept getting distracted by random grammar mistakes.
crap. speed writing and "let's just publish" does that. do leave notes on typos if you have the time, I'll happily correct them.
If honesty and modesty is important to be successful in this industry then they will fail anyway. Spoiler, they will not. If you want to be happy and content with what you are creating as a human being while you are existing though, then honesty is crucial, but happiness has nothing to do with success. And that is not what they are trying to do, they just try to be successful, not happy.
You should rather ask yourself, why their success in their dirty, unjust, unethical, dishonest and pretentious ways is making you feel so bad and angry, that you have to write a blog post about it. It is not supposed to be an attack, but what drives the behaviour you are criticising is the same source that drives your desire to criticise it. A hunger for validation, measured probably not even in money, but in how perfect you align yourself with the idea that you are projecting to the outside world, reflected in your social echo. Meaning, that the followers you have serve as a mirror to check, if you have already become what your idea of yourself is, ignoring the fact that this is not your true self after all. The ego is strong.
I've come across a few people like Antonio describes here...but thankfully only a few...and most folks I've known in this business tend to be a lot nicer than that....still though, you do meet folks like this...
I recall meeting this one guy years ago....he had 'guru' in his title on his cards...and man...that guy was about as big a douche as you could get...he pretty much covered every note in this article.... Luckily, I didn't have to work with him very long...but the memory lingers ;)
The writing did feel smooth as far as syntax and flow though.
I just felt like I was reading something an angsty teenager wrote. It sounded like it was an attempt to be edgy.. Kind of making the author come off as a bit of a jerk... It all seemed unnecessarily vitriolic..
Woa woa woa woa woa woaaaa woaaaa... Lois, this is not my cup! XD Ok so I think nobody cares about designers, we are one of the less aware or less important industries for the general population concerns. Musicians, politicians and even developers and engineers are more important for most of the people around us. Is "cool" being a designer but in the end my friends, nobody cares. So being a rockstar designer is like shouting as strong as you can in the emptiness of the universe. You can be a douche in everything you do so, whatever...