Jessica Hische on Non-Creepy Networking: Party Etiquette (jessicahische.is)
almost 10 years ago from Allan Grinshtein, Founder at LayerVault
almost 10 years ago from Allan Grinshtein, Founder at LayerVault
I think all the fame has got to her head. This superior "oh let me help you be a human" crap really pisses me off
Not everyone knows how to behave like a human being and not like a dick. It is nice to hear there are people out there like Jessica to remind us to be direct but polite. And that our needs might differ from others. And if you think this is crap maybe you should re-read her article.
I don't know, it seemed pretty straightforward. Personally, could've done with a little less usage of the words introvert and extrovert but hey.
Seems like a normal blog topic and, coming from someone who's horrible at this sort of thing, actually goes a long way. I didn't feel she was talking down to me at all. It just seemed personable and that she was speaking like she would to anyone.
Also, this is just an aside but her site is pleasing to me in nearly every way.
I think she writes well but find this overly patronising. How socially inept does she think her audience is?!
Cf.:
Fresh Air: Sometimes you just need a breather. "I’m going to go get some air."
Gee thanks -- I would never have thought to say that.
Have you ever been to a mixer with artists and designers?
Hello sir/madam, can I interest you in an {alcoholic/non-alcoholic} beverage of your choice? My name is {first-name} Geez, this {party/getogether/insert-own-creative-word} is a real {hoot/blast}.
"Nothing to see here. Move along"
Classic maneuver
The whole article can be summed up with the line she italicized. If you go to an event with the intent to just meet people, everything will work out OK.
If you’re like me, networking is relatively easy because it is absolutely transparent to every person you meet that you are interested in who they are as a person rather than what they have to offer you. This is a huge distinction and is what separates the effortless networkers from their more smarmy-seeming counterparts.
..
Thought it was great, I have always had a a fear of having to network and do this sort of stuff. Never know how to approach just a random group of people and start talking. I find it very hard to introduce myself and have short small talk conversations.
It was weird reading this after meeting her briefly and having her come across as fairly awkward. I guess do as she says not as she does.
Designer News
Where the design community meets.
Designer News is a large, global community of people working or interested in design and technology.
Have feedback?
Login to Comment
You'll need to log in before you can leave a comment.
LoginRegister Today
New accounts can leave comments immediately, and gain full permissions after one week.
Register now