That still highly depends on your location, as far as I can tell. In addition to that, I see a lot of people being way too focused on a specific aspect of the job (not implying, that that is the case with you). The web sometimes makes it seem like there are thousands of open positions for something very specific, and that is not the case. I see, especially here, a lot of rather unexperienced people looking for an "entry position in UX design." I am sure there is something like this nowadays, but people don't do 3 projects and then become UX engineers at uber.

they all want me to have more experience but how do I get there if I'm stuck in this never ending circle?

Just make something. There are websites that can send you fake project briefs for you to design for, or take a brand that you think has done a poor job and try to make it better, make a website for your favourite kind of tea, design a poster for a band you are into for a concert you wish they had in your town. That will show off your skills.

But ultimately, just be a bit patient. I'm sure you'll get what you need :D