I can relate to that internal conflict, and my working theory is that continually talking to and asking questions of people different than you will continue to give you a clearer picture and through that allow you to act in a more considerate way (plus you meet amazing people). Beyond that constantly strive to be less ignorant and more self aware every day, and try to check yourself and ask others hold you accountable for your actions and words. Regarding the danger of self-righteousness -- don't stop to pat yourself on the back -- keep trying to listen and improve.

The very fact that you would acknowledge that conflict speaks highly of your character :)

I think it's really cool that a lot of men are becoming feminists. The best description of feminism I have read is that it is not necessary "pro-women" so much as "anti-white, middle class, male superiority". To be a feminist, male or female, is to champion equality, but I can see how that may be taken wrongly.